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The Signs Of Inner Conflicts.

Updated: Apr 19


A person makes up to 10,000 decisions daily and becomes aware of them only moments after taking them. One fine research shows that deep processes involving unconscious factors shape our thinking, actions, and decision-making ability at an automatic level & confirm that most of our decisions are made unconsciously.

It is as if there is a part of us making us do or think something before us realizing the fact.



The Signs Of Inner Conflicts.
The Signs Of Inner Conflicts.


For example:

On one hand, you want to start a new chapter or want to raise your game and move on to the upgraded level, but on the other hand, you feel something blocking your way... you lack natural motivation and energy to do so.


You want to spend more time with your loved ones, but there’s always a compelling thing for you to stay chained to your desk. You are unable to give them the time, love, and attention they deserve, which makes you feel guilty and frustrated in the long run.


These mixed-up situations are the root cause of change in behaviors which slowly leads to a trap of frustration, stress, and disappointment.


When there are contradictory parts, wants, needs, and desires, inner conflicts are born. It becomes even more complex if unsolved, when our contradictory parts, wants, and desires make us being torn apart and pulled in a different direction, hindering us from actually getting what we want!





It may lead to a situation where a person is left with only one option and that is to question his abilities, which marks a negative impact on his state of mind and leads to self-criticism and doubts, as the mind-chatter gets in their way to meaningful growth.



 

How do you liberate yourself from the trap of inner battle and move forward?


Instead of overthinking, forcing willpower on ourselves, juggling between the back and forth between contradictory options, how would it be to have a natural, powerful response within, that makes you feel liberated, confident, and calm when your actions are in sync with your values and with who you are?


STEP 1: WATCH OUT FOR THESE SIGNS OF INNER CONFLICTS IN YOUR LIFE.

It’s common to be consciously aware of only one side of an inner conflict. Therefore the first step is to be open to the idea that there is a minimum of two parts (or more) involved in your issue.


And here are the signs that contradictory wants, beliefs, and desires might be operating at the unconscious level.



16 SIGNS WHICH SHOW THAT YOU MIGHT HAVE AN INNER CONFLICT:


  1. You want to do something, but another part of you is screaming “no way!”

  2. You feel anger and you lash out at yourself or you are constantly being hard on yourself.

  3. You engage yourself in severe self-criticism.

  4. You struggle between doing what you think you should do and what you actually do.

  5. You catch yourself wanting to be super perfect in everything you do.

  6. You want to get rid of a bad habit, but discipline and willpower don't help much in doing so.

  7. You notice unconscious self-sabotaging behaviors and don't know how to handle them.

  8. You can’t decide what to do, so you distract yourself with other insignificant issues.

  9. You are stuck with thinking, weighing pros and cons, and analysis paralysis.

  10. You say yes to a lot of things and become very busy because you’re not sure what to prioritize.

  11. You’re overwhelmed with ideas and don't know which one to work on first.

  12. You start projects but fail to finish them.

  13. You feel trapped by the current situation and stop living a fulfilling life.

  14. You’re seeking a way out of this, reading books to overcome your issue, watching YouTube videos, talking to experts but still, your mind is in a whirl. So, thinking and analysing don't help you find any solution.

  15. You constantly question yourself and worry about what others might think about you or your performance.

  16. Also, contradictory personal beliefs may conflict with each other. For example, you believe you shall spend more quality time with your loved ones, but at the same time, you believe you need to work even harder to be truly fulfilled in your profession.


Recognizing and integrating all inner parts of ourselves is a holistic process that usually occurs in steps and is often facilitated by professional therapies or a coach.




STEP 2: SEEKING CLARITY AND MAKING PEACE BETWEEN CONFLICTING INNER PARTS


There is an easier way to end the inner battle and make peace with these conflicting parts at the deepest level and move forward. There is an easier way which you can act on starting from now on!


So instead of trying to get rid of these unwanted "conflicting parts" of ourselves, we should partner with them for achieving something we want with ease, achieving maximum results in the minimum of time, and enjoying our natural motivation for a thriving and flourishing life.

You can shift from inner conflict to inner Clarity, Congruence, and Calmfidence when you know how to make peace with your conflicting desires and know, how to partner with your unconscious mind for achieving something you want! Let’s explore!



There exists a way to reclaim your Clarity, Congruence, and Calmfidence, liberated feeling, moving in one direction with your whole being synchronized with your mind, and knowing that your actions are in perfect harmony with your own values and beliefs which makes you who you are!


Partner with your unconscious to achieve maximum results in the minimum of time, without inner battling, without the need to fight with your autonomic thoughts. Because only being courageous, deep diving, and exploring all parts involved in this struggle can help you find the solution for it. In the end, you surely become the one who’s got peace of mind just because you were brave enough to take steps.


The good news is that the Core Calmfidence transformative and integrative approach works at the deeper, automatic level so that the solutions you find will be just as automatic. This means an end to using willpower to try to will yourself to be the way you want to be, and instead, it can just happen naturally and automatically.



ABOUT NELL PUETTER


As a certified Core Transformation Coach, Trainer, and the Founder of Co Calmfidence, I have helped hundreds of mission-driven people to reveal their Clarity, Calmness, and Confidence within. My mission is to empower high performers, through inner transformative work, helping them shift unwanted feelings, behavior, or thoughts. As a result, they create an impact in the world they were meant for, both on a professional and personal level.





Inner transformative work is designed to effortlessly activate your innate capacity for seeing clearly through situations, stepping into your inner confidence, and taking actions from the place of congruence, without needing to force yourself or practice yet another routine or learn a new skill, without you needing to do, think, implement or figure out anything.


Inner transformative coaching works on the basis that we are all born with an innate clarity and natural motivation for thriving and flourishing.

It works on the basis that we all have a built-in blueprint and are born with the capacity to navigate the ups and downs of life's journey with ease while contributing to well-being in life and beyond.



 

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