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  • Writer's pictureNell Puetter

The traps of inner conflict and how to liberate yourself

Updated: Apr 19

On one hand, you want to start a new chapter or want to raise your game and move on to the upgraded level, but on the other hand, you feel something blocking your way... you lack natural motivation and energy to do so.

Or you want to spend more time with your loved ones, but there’s always a compelling thing for you to stay chained to your desk. You are unable to give them the time, love, and attention they deserve, which makes you feel guilty and frustrated in the long run.

Our increasing inner conflicts drain our motivation and make us procrastinate so much that it sabotages our desired outcomes and exhausts us mentally. As a result, we end up in a more complex state of analysis paralysis. Our thoughts become more fast-forward, but we are sadly left with less clarity, less calmness, and a lack of congruence and as such we are unable to give our full strength and let our true potential shine through.

It may lead to a situation where a person is left with only one option and that is to question his abilities, which marks a negative impact on his state of mind and leads to self-criticism and doubts, as the mind-chatter gets in their way to meaningful growth.

These mixed-up situations are the root cause of change in behaviors which slowly leads to a trap of frustration, stress, and disappointment.


How do you liberate yourself from the trap of inner battle and move forward?

How do you calm your mind and regain your state of clear vision, inner confidence, and congruence?

When there are contradictory parts, wants, needs, and desires, inner conflicts are born. It becomes even more complex if unsolved, as these contradictory parts make us feel being torn apart and pulled in a different direction, hindering us from actually getting what we want!

And there is an easier way to make peace with these conflicting parts at the deepest level and moving forward.

Well, first of all, it’s common to be consciously aware of only one side of an inner conflict. Therefore the first step is to be open to the idea that there is a minimum of two parts (or more ) involved in your issue.



  • You want to do something, but another part of you is screaming “no way!”

  • You feel anger and you lash out at yourself or you are constantly being hard on yourself.

  • You engage yourself in severe self-criticism.

  • You struggle between doing what you think you should do and what you actually do.

  • You catch yourself wanting to be super perfect in everything you do.

  • You want to get rid of a bad habit, but discipline and willpower don't help much in doing so.

  • You notice unconscious self-sabotaging behaviors and don't know how to handle them.

  • You can’t decide what to do, so you distract yourself with other insignificant issues.

  • You are stuck with thinking, weighing pros and cons, and analysis paralysis.

  • You say yes to a lot of things and become very busy because you’re not sure what to prioritize.

  • You’re overwhelmed with ideas and don't know which one to work on first.

  • You start projects but fail to finish them.

  • You feel trapped by the current situation and stop living a fulfilling life.

  • You’re seeking a way out of this, reading books to overcome your issue, watching YouTube videos, talking to experts but still, your mind is in a whirl. So, thinking and analysing don't help you find any solution.

  • You constantly question yourself and worry about what others might think about you or your performance.

  • Also, contradictory personal beliefs may conflict with each other. For example, you believe you shall spend more quality time with your loved ones, but at the same time, you believe you need to work even harder to be truly fulfilled in your profession.

According to entrepreneur and bestselling author Tony Robbins says that success is achieved through a plan that is 80 percent psychological and 20 percent strategic.

How you handle those plateaus, psychologically, will determine whether you remain stalled there forever and your company ends up in the graveyard.

If you find yourself facing any psychological mental traps — deal with them, and you’ll have a chance of making it success and on the other side.


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